Take the time to do something extra for your spouse every day. This could be as simple as handing him/her a towel to dry their hands on. As the gesture is made, tell your spouse you love him/her OR tell them something that you appreciate about him/her. "I enjoy your laughter as you talk with the kids."

When you pass each other on your way across the house, reach out and hug one another.

Prepare a meal or work on a household project together. The time spent working together to complete a task with the focus on doing something together for the good of our family can be a way to increase unity in our marriage.

Pray together.

Wear your outfit that is your spouse's favorite and tell them "I was thinking of you when I dressed this evening/today."

ONCE EVERY MONTH make room on your calendar for a date. Schedule this time together and reserve the time and energy as if you were dating. (Wear your spouse's favorite outfit on the date!)

When your spouse does something thoughtful, tell them you noticed and how much you appreciate their thoughtfulness.

When your spouse tells you the day at the office was difficult, be sensitive to any other thoughts or feelings might be expressed. If your spouse needs for you to listen, do so without interrupting or judging. If your spouse needs your silent presence, offer them the space they need. If your spouse needs to cry, hold your spouse until the crying stops. Avoid the temptation to offer advice or useful solutions until you are asked for them.

Give 100% of yourself to your marriage. In marriage 50% + 50% does not equal 100%. When both spouses provide 100% of their attention, of their commitment, of there energy, the marriage functions at full capacity.

Surprise your spouse as often as you can. Flowers, cards, a favorite meal, an evening planned for just the two of you, a piece of candy or a note on the pillow at bedtime. . . Be creative. You know what your spouse enjoys - give it to them often. St. Paul called this "outdoing one another in generosity".